Monday, 15 February 2010

Do You Love Your Writing?

I'm sure you were all inundated yesterday with Valentine messages, and perhaps you even sent one (or two, or a few!) yourself. But did you send one to your writing?

You do love your writing don't you? After all, if you don't, then why should anyone else? For some writers, particularly those at the start of their relationship, their writing is a very personal relationship. Even private detectives fail to reveal the identity of the lover in this affair.

But, treat it with respect, cherish it and work hard at it, and it will reward you for all of your hard work. There's no need to buy this lover of yours diamond rings, or take it out to posh restaurants. All it asks of you, is to spend a little time together. Reward your lover with this time and your relationship will flourish.

To begin with, those first moments together may be fleeting, torrid affairs, where the words between you poured from your hearts, leaving you physically and emotionally exhausted. But, soon the world will catch you together and your relationship will become common knowledge. People will accept you together and if you happen to be at a dinner party, and a snippet of conversation attracts your attention, no one will think it strange if you slip out your notebook and jot down the details.

Don't forget those early days. Take time to recreate the passion you experienced at the beginning of your relationship. It's possible to relive those moments when the words just flowed without a care in the world. Flirt with your writing. Caress your ideas and massage them into shape. You may be surprised at what you're both capable of producing together!

Good luck!


  1. How very romantic! I did send a card to every agent in the Writers and Artists Yearbook. Do you think this was a good move?

  2. Excellent post Simon!! Marvelous advice!
    I love my writing so much I sometime find it tough to share it with others. I get very jealous and occasionally struggle with what others might think of my 'lover'. I feel that this insecurity comes from my inexperience in the relationship. Hopefully I will soon be able to live by the cliched maxim; "If you love someone, set them free".


  3. Fran - I'm afraid to say that sending a Valentine's card to every agent was not the most sensible move available to you ... you should have included a big box of chocolates and several cases of wine with your cards.

    Dean - the solution to your problem is simple. More experience. Take your lover and do new exercises together. Explore each other intimately and learn what buttons to press. Oh ... and do more writng too!

  4. Thanks for putting a bit of spice into our lives Simon.
    My liaisons with writing have certainly helped me to stay happy.
    In a household dominated by men I was brushed aside daily. The only thing I used to get to caress were dirty socks and football strips.
    Rugby, off-roading, formula one, in our house the testosterone bounces off the walls.
    Even the cat is male.
    But since I stopped being so secretive about my writing, they have accepted that it is an important part of my life.
    Except for the cat.
    He still thinks he is number one.

  5. Cats always think they are number one, Sue!!! And men like to think they are, but it's only because we women lwt them think that! We all know who is really in charge don't we ;0)

    Great post Simon. I didn't send any V cards or recieve any. No, I tell a lie, I got a home made one from my nephew! But my writing and I don't need romantic dinners alone or to whisper sweet nothings into our ears - my writing knows how much I love it everyday because I get it out every day and lavish attention on it - the greatest love is caressing my writing until it's publishable and setting it free in the world and seeing it in print - that's all the reward I need (oh, and the money is nice too!)

    Julie xx

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